“The ‘it gets better’ discourse is founded on a bunch of lies. <\/p>\n
The first lie is that after high school, you’ll be able to avoid those bullies. That’s just not true. You’re still going to have bullies in your life. You’re still going to have people that are throwing insults at you from their car windows as they drive by, people who will give you some funny look to let you know that you’re not welcome there, and people who will try to commit some act of violence against you. The point is, there are still going to be bullies. <\/p>\n
The second lie is that people say ‘oh just wait until college. College is going to be great’. Not all colleges have queer organizations. Some colleges will prevent queer organizations from forming, like Lindenwood University and suburban St. Louis did. Some colleges, namely private religious ones, may teach homophobia as part of the curriculum. <\/p>\n
If we say we believe it gets better, we’re also believing that nothing really needs to be done right now. All you have to do is wait it out. So, the behavior of the bullies can go unquestioned. The behavior of the school administrators who don’t do anything about it can go unquestioned. We don’t have to think about those issues. Just wait it out; the solution lies in the future, not in the present. <\/p>\n
The other thing about this is that it’s going to go away like the last election, like the last oil spill, like the last terrorist attack, it’s gonna go away like Chandra Levy, like Terry Schiavo — remember them? No. They went away. It’ll go away just like any other hubbub that’s perpetuated in the mass media. It’s gonna go away as people passively sit in front of their televisions and as something new comes along to occupy our minds whether it’s shark attacks or bridges falling or some kid being kidnapped or whatever. We’ll forget about it, we won’t talk about it anymore, having done nothing about it.<\/p>\n
So I’m saying we shouldn’t be talking about this ‘it gets better’ because it’s a lie. Well what should we be talking about? <\/p>\n
One, we could be talking about how there’s a lack of trained sensitive social workers in schools who have real authority. We can talk about how that job is devalued.<\/p>\n
We can talk about deconstructing the meanings that we associate with sexuality and gender and religion. Take a step back and realize how we make all this stuff up. We make up what it means to be a girl, what it means to be a boy, we make up sexuality and ideas about them, we make up religion and the implications that come along with it. <\/p>\n
We should be talking about the only thing that’s helpful really: the opportunity to have a unique perception on the world. If you’re disenfranchised from society [\u2026] then you’re able to step back and view the game from outside. You’re able to see the deep structure that organizes. With this, there’s good and there’s bad. You’re disenfranchised, thats the bad. The good is that you have this unique perspective. You can take a step back and say ‘I don’t have to be spoonfed everything I want to believe. I don’t have to uncritically accept everything I’ve been told. I don’t have to just follow the rules. I’m operating outside of the rules, and because of that I can challenge other taken-for-granted assumptions that are going on in my life.’<\/p>\n
We should talk about critically examining our conversations and the problems that we talk about and the causes and solutions to those problems. Not just repeating whatever it is other people have said.”<\/p><\/blockquote>\n
Not surprisingly, his video has been met with a barrage of insults such as ‘dumb shit’, ‘you’re sick’, ‘douchebag’ and ‘homophobe’. It is amazing how people who support the idea of equal rights for all are so vehemently against a dissenting opinion which is clearly not meant to bully or put down members of the LGBT community. <\/p>\n
Most teens smart enough to figure out that while these messages might not be all smiles and catch phrases, they’re honest and do encourage education and change. To think that some truly believe that opinions such as these should be kept hidden in a dark place, never to be heard again, is disappointing.<\/p>\n